The Self Love Project

Takeaways from Book pt.3

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson

1) Life isn't meant to go your way all the time, and that's OK.

"When we give too many f*cks, when we choose to give a f*ck about everything, then we feel as though we are perpetually entitled to feel comfortable and happy at all times, that's when life f*cks us."

2) Pick your battles wisely. Invest your energy where it matters.

"Maturity is what happens when one learns to only give a f*ck about what's truly f*ck-worthy."

3) Doing too much is the same as doing nothing at all.

"We are defined by what we choose to reject. And if we reject nothing we essentially have no identity at all."

4) Failure is a part of life. Failure is how you learn and grow.

"If you think about a young child trying to learn to walk, that child will fall down and hurt itself hundreds of times. But at no point does that child ever stop and think, 'Oh, I guess walking just isn't for me. I'm not good at it.'"

5) And that your fear of failure is your biggest enemy.

"We can be truly successful only at something we're willing to fail at. If we're unwilling to fail, then we're unwilling to succeed."

6) You can't ever really "find yourself" because who you are will constantly change, and that's a good thing.

"I say don't find yourself. I say never know who you are. Because that's what keeps you striving and discovering. And it forces you to remain humble in your judgments and accepting of the differences in others."

7) Not every "problem" has to be a negative thing.

"Don't hope for a life without problems. There's no such thing. Instead, hope for a life full of good problems."

8) Once you're great at one thing, aim to be great at another. And another. And another.

"People who become great at something become great because they understand that they're not already great – they are mediocre, they are average – and that they could be so much better."

9) It's important to stop and be content with what you have once in a while.

"The more you pursue feeling better all the time, the less satisfied you become, as pursuing something only reinforces the fact that you lack it in the first place."

10) Hard times are a necessary part of life.

"Who you are is defined by what you're willing to struggle for."

11) And that caring less will only lead to better things.

"This, in a nutshell, is what 'self-improvement' is really about: prioritising better values, choosing better things to give a f*ck about. Because when you give better f*cks, you get better problems."