All women from all families have good and bad experience, both with their families and other people, some would not let their bad experiences or whatever they have gone through in life reflect in their personalities, while others are still troubled with whatever happened to them. Eitherways, all women have good and bad encounters with people, circumstances, conditions and areas of life; how they feel towards it, how much of impact it had on them and how much of benefit or hurt it has caused them, people usually do not know at all. So once you marry a lady, it is a chance for her for a fresh start, to leave the past issues behind and start a new life. This is where it is extremely important for husbands to understand that there has to be a fatherly guardian figure in them too; a sense of security, protection, help, assistance and care.
Usually when married people get in a certain rythm and life keeps on moving onwards, due to the busy days many men very often forget to understand that no matter how busy the day is, it must not be too busy to take care of her, check on her, make her smile and know as much as possible how she is being in her psychological and emotional health. Lives of people neither mess up due to diseases or financial problems as bad as they do when there is harm to psychological and emotional health. And just like any other human, she comes with flaws and goodness, so there has to be a balance of admiration and patience, care and tolerance, love and effort, generosity and understanding, and, concern and protection.
You could be making millions but if you ignore the emotional and psychological health of your wife, the basic bricks of your whole building will be weakened. Which is why it is necessary to be a close ally to her to know whatever she's going through and what you can possibly do to assist her, to rectify her situation or to ease her pain. Marriage has more to do with responsibility and sacrifice, once you understand it, the other areas will be balanced too.
So always try your best to understand what is going inside her head, if she mentally at ease and apart from that, try your best to reverse and rectify any scars and wounds left on her emotionally or psychologically because of her family, and try working on it to do whatever you can to fix it. Once you understand this, you will be more than just a husband; a mentor, a helper, her knight and her king at the same time, her bestfriend. It takes time, but you can get there once you start taking seriously her psychological and emotional health. This is not just for your relationship with her, but being conscious of this will also have a very positive impact on your child; if are successful in fixing the school and the teacher, the needy student will graduate very well. And this is what exactly what she is to your child: the first school, and a teacher close to the baby most of the time. Helping her is directly proportional to helping your child, and that is how you strengthen your house. So start working on this as best as you can!
